It is unfortunate that in today’s world, a woman is often forced to interact with rape indirectly or directly on a daily basis.
The silent monologue always happens at the back of her mind but she can never just talk about it openly. She will be seen as a coward! After all, in Africa, most rape victims are always blamed for “seducing” the attackers.
As she prepares for a meeting with her boss, she has to look at the door and ensure that it is not locked or with enough space to let sound travel fast. Just in case…
She has to dress just a little less sexy as she goes for her date with a guy she likes. She has to insist that they go to a place where there are people. For security, just in case.
She has to ensure that her children know how to drive at an early age just in case her husband continues to come home late and intoxicated.
She has to ensure that she downloads the most effective Rape App so as to know what to do the next time the male teacher gives her that look during tuition.
She has to avoid family reunions just in case her uncle kisses her on the lip and spanks her bottom in the name of being funny.
She has to leave work a little earlier than the rest because of the male colleague who recently stood too close to her in the elevator as she worriedly counted down from the 20th to the ground floor. If it wasn’t for the janitor popping-in at 15th floor…
She has to use a different path as she walks home. The shopkeeper started closing shop a little later than usual and he stares at her a lot in a way that makes her really uncomfortable.
She has to learn how to pray all by herself because the last time she made a confession, the priest talked to her the way her boyfriend does.
This is just how real rape is to most women. Even worse, studies show that women in Africa are often raped by people they already know.
How great it would be to have a world free from the fear of rape.
For now, it only remains as a stupendous take on optimism.
Still, I choose to hope because giving up is never an option!