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Racism

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Since time immemorial, the two main categories of skin-colour-themed racial groups that have been at war are the black and white race.

Honestly, I wonder which fool came up with this concept and which impish individuals believed it.

For years racism between the two has been a mix of  black grievance and white fear.

But what would drive human beings to this point where suddenly the colour of the skin determines a “better”, “wiser”, “more cultured”, “successful”, “stronger”, and even “more powerful” human being?
Absolute balderdash!

It is a lie from the devil and his evil grandmother!
I grew up impartial to racism; I didn’t give it any room in my life, brain or heart.

I can honestly say that from a young age, interacting with people from different cultural backgrounds, countries and continents, economic backgrounds and even with different colours of skin… has helped me develop a deeper appreciation for God’s unique design of the human being.

Character has always been my best judge for what makes a good person. Those who know me well already learnt from my sweet adventures and challenges in the dating and professional scene when it comes to race.

I don’t regret a thing because I stood for what I believed in!

There’s nothing like being colour blind. We cannot deny what our eyes see and have grown to know. Most of us just need to change our attitude and see beauty for what it really is. We do have a beautiful variety of skin colours. We can’t run away from it because we are all beautiful designs and shouldn’t be shy to talk about colour.

At the end of the day, there is only one race in my eyes and heart – THE HUMAN RACE.

My unborn children will grow up knowing this as a fact and not just a liberal philosophy.

Love,
Ayuma.

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RAPE; The Unspoken

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It is unfortunate that in today’s world, a woman is often forced to interact with rape indirectly or directly on a daily basis.

The silent monologue always happens at the back of her mind but she can never just talk about it openly. She will be seen as a coward! After all, in Africa, most rape victims are always blamed for “seducing” the attackers.

As she prepares for a meeting with her boss, she has to look at the door and ensure that it is not locked or with enough space to let sound travel fast. Just in case…

She has to dress just a little less sexy as she goes for her date with a guy she likes. She has to insist that they go to a place where there are people. For security, just in case.

She has to ensure that her children know how to drive at an early age just in case her husband continues to come home late and intoxicated.

She has to ensure that she downloads the most effective Rape App so as to know what to do the next time the male teacher gives her that look during tuition.

She has to avoid family reunions just in case her uncle kisses her on the lip and spanks her bottom in the name of being funny.

She has to leave work a little earlier than the rest because of the male colleague who recently stood too close to her in the elevator as she worriedly counted down from the 20th to the ground floor. If it wasn’t for the janitor popping-in at 15th floor…

She has to use a different path as she walks home. The shopkeeper started closing shop a little later than usual and he stares at her a lot in a way that makes her really uncomfortable.

She has to learn how to pray all by herself because the last time she made a confession, the priest talked to her the way her boyfriend does.

This is just how real rape is to most women. Even worse, studies show that women in Africa are often raped by people they already know.

How great it would be to have a world free from the fear of rape.

For now, it only remains as a stupendous take on optimism.

Still, I choose to hope because giving up is never an option!

African Fashion Rocks!!!

WELCOME TO LA MAR

There’s a wild animal in each one of us!

We live in this modern jungle called Nairobi where the survival for the sleekest is the rule of game.

La Mar - Splash of Colour

La Mar – Splash of Colour

LA MAR celebrates two official years of online shopping for authentic fashion accessories which are all custom-made!

La Mar Designs - Photography by Ben Kiruthi

We believe in the beauty of bringing out the best features of each animal in us with a dash of African flair: the rockers, the rooted African, the nostalgic retroman , sporty dudes & dudettes, the dynamic artist, the boardroom giant, you name it, we’ve got somemething for everyone!

La Mar - Mosaic of a Woman Dance

La Mar – Mosaic of a Woman Dance

There is a wide range of accessories to meet your fancy!

La Mar - Mosaic of a Woman Professional

La Mar – Mosaic of a Woman Professional

Men’s fashion, Women’s fashion, Kids’ fashion and even Home and Office accessories.

La Mar - Men's Fashion

La Mar – Men’s Fashion

La Mar - Fabulosity

La Mar – Fabulosity

La Mar - Kids' Collection

La Mar – Kids’ Collection

La Mar - Office and Home Wall Piece

La Mar – Office and Home Wall Piece

Our team is driven by a pure mix of creativity, fun and an adventurous smashing of rules to come up with fantastic pieces that leave each wearer of our designs feeling absolutely fabulous.

Faces of La Mar

Faces of La Mar

Having started from simple beginnings, LA MAR has now grown into a dynamic online shop through the LA MAR Facebook Page with thousands of fans from across the urban jungle. Like our page NOW and indulge in our rich serving of glamour!

La Mar - Standing Out

La Mar – Standing Out

It is said that a picture speaks a thousand words. So let La Mar blow your mind away with the thousands-of-words captured in the gallery below from the LA MAR Gallery.

Enjoy!

LA MAR PAIRINGS

La Mar - Fun Times Piece

La Mar – Fun Times Piece

La Mar - Safari Pairing

La Mar – Safari Pairing

La Mar - Date Night Pairing

La Mar – Date Night Pairing

La Mar - Afrique Pairing

La Mar – Afrique Pairing

LA MAR RINGS

La Mar - Ring Collection

La Mar – Ring Collection

La Mar - Rings

La Mar – Rings

LA MAR LONG NECK PIECES

La Mar - Funky Neck Piece

La Mar – Funky Neck Piece

La Mar - Men's Neck Piece

La Mar – Men’s Neck Piece

La Mar - Funky Fun Neck Piece

La Mar – Funky Fun Neck Piece

LA MAR EAR PIECES

La Mar - Button Ear Piece

La Mar – Button Ear Piece

La Mar - Ear Piece Fun

La Mar – Ear Piece Fun

La Mar - Ear Piece

La Mar – Ear Piece

LA MAR WRIST PIECES

La Mar - Charm Wrist Piece

La Mar – Charm Wrist Piece

La Mar - Wrist Mix

La Mar – Wrist Mix

La Mar - Men's Cuff Piece

La Mar – Men’s Cuff Piece

LA MAR ANTIQUE PIECES

La Mar - Brass Neck Piece

La Mar – Brass Neck Piece

La Mar - Bold Antique Neck Piece

La Mar – Bold Antique Neck Piece

La Mar - Aluminium Neck Piece

La Mar – Aluminium Neck Piece

La Mar - Antique Neck Piece

La Mar – Antique Neck Piece

LA MAR BROOCHE

La Mar - Brooche Piece

La Mar – Brooche Piece

LA MAR BAGS

La Mar - Fuschia Clutch Bag

La Mar – Fuschia Clutch Bag

La Mar - Clutch Bag

La Mar – Clutch Bag

LA MAR GIFT CARD

La Mar - Gift Card

La Mar – Gift Card

More from the LA MAR Gallery:

La Mar Beginnings

La Mar Spring 2013 Men’s Collection

La Mar Spring 2013 Women’s Collection

La Mar Fall 2012 Collection

La Mar Kid’s Collection

La Mar Home and Office Collection

La Mar Weddings

La Mar Bag Collection

La Mar Mosaic of a Woman Photoshoot

Out of the Shadows Fashion Catwalk featuring La Mar designs

Do you like what LA MAR has got for you?

Place your order NOW and get a free delivery within Nairobi!!!

Contact us on +254 787 148 198

We do welcome your feedback.

Keep it LA MAR!

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La Mar - Logo

La Mar – Logo

Yours Truly,

Ayuma.

Limitless #4 WIL Series

Photography by George Kanyingi

Life has a way of teaching us things ahead of time, much earlier than we often expect. So in my personal walk in life, I daily discover new angles to LOVE. I keep finding out that love is not just what we often think it is; that mushy feeling inside that can make you fly above hills, or run across a field of yellow lilies or just a good feeling that never stops.But hear it now dear friend, LOVE is not and will never be a feeling!

Love has always been and will continue to be a choice, a discipline, a sacrifice of self for the greater good of others.

As soon as you understand that the focus of love is never on you but another, then you will begin to understand the true language of love.

With this in mind, I would like to reveal to you one of the many faces of love. Yes, love has many faces even what we don’t expect, many avenues, as well as challenges. But all in all tis LOVE.

Have you ever wondered why at times things do not just seem to be functioning well in your life especially when it has to do with people?

Well, I have had quite a number of those. Also, some sad instances where people take advantage of my time, effort, kindness and even my nature of being concerned about the well-being of others.

I once felt so guilty asking myself why I am always the one giving and I never get presents back, never get return favours, never get quality time back… But I remembered what my mother once told me:

“When you notice that you keep waving your hand to people who never take the time to wave back, maybe it is time to give your hand a rest, until it is worth to raise it.”

I was young and at that time I did not know what she meant until it came out in black and white recently. Perhaps the main reason we get fed-up with others is because they do not add value to our lives. When you give effortlessly to those that matter in your life, it is bound to multiply and bear fruit in one way or another.

But if we keep giving effortlessly to those that don’t really add value to our lives, it is like casting seed in a thorny bush where it will suffocate, never growing, never bearing fruit, never rewarding.

So with that in mind, let us take time to identify the people who REALLY add value to our lives (not just with physical or monetary bits) and choose to acknowledge them by loving them unconditionally and offer them what comes with it.

Love is a choice, so choose wisely!

 

Limitless #4 WIL Series

 

It would be nice if people gave instead of just receiving,

It would be nice if people cared instead of swelling in pride,

It would be nice if people communicate instead of launching war of silence,

It would be nice if people met and connected instead of hiding under passive “social networks”,

It would be nice if people loved instead of feeding fear with selfishness,

It would be nice if people accepted each other instead of drowning with DOs and DON’Ts,

It would be nice if people opened their hearts to help themselves and others instead of hiding under “personal struggles”,

It would be nice if people knew how short life really is instead of postponing special moments in life,

It would be nice if people expected the best from themselves instead of others,

It would be nice if people remembered these things instead of squeezing them at the backseat of their lives.

It never hurts to care. It never hurts to be the best you ever can be. It never hurts to love unconditionally those who care about you. It never hurts to live life as the LORD expects us to.

But try not to… And the best of guesses is that it will hurt like you never expected!

 

Yours Truly,

Ayuma.

Fool’s Gold #3 WIL Series

WIL Series #3 Fool’s Gold

Ladies may long for your money, cars and expensive shiny things- but not you,

They may long to have your name and all that comes with it- just not you,

They can spend the rest of their lives happy in your house- not with you,

They may have pleasure with your shallow body but never taste your honeyed heart.

Their affection lasts as long as your plastic hosts a family of zeros,

Their clothes drop at every cling and clang, clink and clank,

They know neither of a woman’s heart nor verbs,

Just the twisted tongue of plastic queens.

They bear hearts of gold all covered in mould,

To them, love is a putrid mess they tolerate,

But I holler through the lonesome halls of your heart,

“Not I!!! Not I!!! ”

For I live and breathe, set to conquer your doubts,

To surrender all the expensive nothings you hold,

For with your sturdy arms wrapped around me,

I am home.

Next to you I rest exultantly on my treasure…chest,

Your heart, my treasure I find.

Love,

Ayuma.

*This poem does not attack ladies as a whole but seeks to unveil the traps of plastic queens.

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