Why do we celebrate people when they die instead of doing so when they are still with us?
How about we:
Shower people with flowers and not their graves.
Shed tears of joy because they are still here, not tears of sadness because they are no more.
Say all the good to them when their ears and hearts are still active, not when their senses have been arrested.
Speak nice things about them instead of petty gossip, before our words mean nothing when we speak nice over their graves.
Don’t be a follower of the dead and gone, they won’t get the chance to hear, smile and feel loved following your support.
Celebrate people when they are still alive!
Today, a friend shared with me a story about a rite of passage carried out by one of the Native-American communities. Boys who have become of age would take-on the tradition by journeying to the center of a thick forest and camp there overnight. An additional challenge to the task is for each boy to go through the whole process while blind-folded. Some of the young men would spend the night in the forest, afraid and feeling unprotected. But at the end of the challenge, the blind folds would be removed and the first person the boy would see is his father. The boy would realize that his father was always there watching and guarding him with bow and arrow. This is the best story to hear as I plan to close this year’s chapter.
The year 2013 has been one rich cocktail of happenings; good and bad, happy and sad, wins and losses, learning and teaching and of course… the dramatic world of the unknown. As many ushered in 2013 with gilts and glam, cheer and beer… I began the year crying in my room because I had had the worst year ever in 2012. Who could have known that a year which began so ominously bad could have ended in such a peaceful and beautiful way?
Death snatched dear ones from me and I could do nothing else but just thank God for the time I had with them. I had to deal with depression early in the year and after healing I managed to draw my friends out of it. So many of us seemed to be suffering from the cruel fate of Murphy’s Law but now we all smile having tasted the sweet fruit of victory over our challenges. I think our tough times shape us into better people and I am glad to have seen the better side of all that I had gone through.
Right now, my life seems like a mess but I trust in God who sees the whole picture.
Right now, I am scared about half the things I am to face or that I pursue but I will do it anyway.
Right now, all I have is faith in God and a vision of the woman I want to be this coming year.
My duty is not to worry, but to carry-on with the task entrusted to me by God.
And so this coming year, I plan to obey dear God and trust that He will be me always:
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” ~Joshua 1:9
Live. Love. Learn.
Here’s to a fabulous 2014 dear ones!