Female offspring are not second best
Recently, there was a news report in Kenya about a man who welcomed his newborn son at the hospital with a convoy of limousines.
I was thrilled that a father would go to such great lengths to celebrate the arrival of his newborn son. After a while, I wondered if the man could have done the same were the newborn child a girl.
Like a thorn, the answer pierced my thoughts to realise that in Africa, the norm is that a son is valued more than a girl.
This took me back to a time when a friend told me, “The African girl is broken even before she leaves her father’s roof…She leaves knowing that she is second best.”
Having shared my thoughts about this reflection on social media, only one person commented; a man. He agreed and said that our African culture has unfortunately caused us to see the boy child as more valuable.
So what happens when I one day give birth to a beautiful baby girl?
Should I throw a small party because she isn’t worth a higher cost for celebration?
Should I tell my husband, “Sorry, we’ll try again?”
Should I tell her that when she sets out into the world she’ll have to be grateful for at least being number two?
Should I pat her back and tell her that she could try marrying a wealthy man instead?
My personal answer is, “Not if I am her mother!”
I might not be a world famous woman but I do believe in the power of purpose.
My purpose in this life is not to be second best but to be the best in fulfilling my individual purpose.
It might not attract global paparazzi to stalk me nor make people want to know which dress or perfume I recently wore.
But one thing is for sure, I shall leave a positive mark in my capacity!
This is the philosophy that I would teach my baby girl.
I would not teach her to do better, I would teach her to do things differently.
I would remind her not to fight with or hate boys, I would remind her to appreciate others’ efforts but compete with her personal vision.
I would tell her not to feel bad when people sigh and say, “She is just a girl.” I would tell her to smile and say, “Thank God I am a girl!”
Most importantly, I would not shy away from celebrating my daughter.
This is because God must have had a darn good reason to go back to His drawing board and design a woman. Surely, the world is a much better place with girls in it. The works needs girls!
No single child in this world should ever grow up feeling second best. All children are equally special and equally able to transform this world into a much better place than they found it.
Blog Action Day 2014
This is my special celebration to girls all over the world as we commemorate Blog Action Day 2014.
Remember, equality and all the good things begin at home ^_^
Love and Sunshine,