Today, I seriously scolded a boy after he slapped a girl just because she did not do what he asked.
I was furious and deeply disappointed! More so because I know that children borrow habits from adults around them. He had seen a grown man do the same and thought it was the best way to make his point to a girl.
In primary school, I saw young boys run after girls whose breasts and hips had started developing.
The girls were in serious pain after the boys carelessly squeezed and pinched their breasts.
Yes guys, boobs really really hurt when developing or during menstruation!
Clearly, neither did the teachers nor the parents teach the boys that a girl’s body is sensitive and should be treated with care and with respect.
At a young age, I saw the real face of rape as dozens of boys in school raced after a girl in my class so that they can all ‘play’ with her developing breasts, hips, vagina and bottom. At one time, one of the targeted girls fainted after she sought refuge in a school bus but forgot to lock the door.
I was disgusted and often faced threats by boys when the girls asked me to help them with reports since my curves had not developed hence not pausing a danger to myself. I was scared of all the threats from the boys. The teachers did little to stop the madness and I was forced to be silent.
But today, I had a voice and I could not remain quiet. I told the boy that he acted like a coward by hitting a girl, not once but twice. I taught him how he ought to treat a girl. I told him that violence has never solved anything. I told him that he needs to grow up and learn to use his brain to communicate and not his hand. I requested him to shut up and not try to give me any excuse for what he did and take responsibility.
The girl was so scared and I tried to comfort her.
When the guardian of the boy came, I was shocked to see just how oblivious he was of the seriousness of the situation.
Disgusted, I scolded the boy, suggested a punishment and frankly told the guardian to man-up and discipline the boy.
I walked away disappointed to see just how much boys are not being mentored to act like real men.
Please, teach a boy how to handle a girl!
Someone out there might do the same to your sister, mother or daughter.